Tuesday, February 10

Driver's Ed

It's been interesting to drive here. 
First I had to get used to driving a stick shift again. (nearly everyone drives stick shifts here.) It came back to me pretty quickly, but given that I'm driving a stick shift mini-van it's a bit different than my old Honda Civic. 
The other thing I noticed back when I first started visiting here was that traffic really flows. There are more round-abouts and merges than hard stops, so the traffic really seems to keep moving. There's still traffic and slow going during the rush hours, but otherwise you can slow and roll through most intersections. In fact, not moving is what throws things off. Whenever  I was tentative in the beginning, that got me into trouble on the road. Once I saw a small car turned into because it didn't merge when a big truck assumed it would go.
There's a "no right turn at a red light" thing here. It drove me crazy at first to sit at one of the few stoplights and no be allowed to turn when there were no cars coming! I've only forgotten that once.
The idea that "the person to the right has the right of way" is very strong here. There's a clear outlook here on who has the right of way in any situation and people will go out of their way to make sure their rights are not usurped. This includes on neighborhood streets, unless there are triangle marking that denote when one street yields to another. There are streets that are the "through" streets, but on them you have to give way to side streets that come from the right. This doesn't make sense to me and I've seen it ignored many times. 
At the same time, there seems to be greater respect for other drivers' rights. There are a lot of streets which are barely wide enough for 2-way traffic. Then people park on the sides of the roads making room for 1-way at a time. For vehicles to go either way, one car has to give way to the other. I find most people are "fair" about whether they wait or go. I think it's because they have to do it so much around here that it would really cause trouble if too many people didn't follow the rules. So, if the parked car is on your side of the road, you give way to the oncoming car. Similarly, if another car is already coming between parked cars (where there is room for only one car to get through) you allow that car to continue. The times I've messed up on this I've been amazed at how determined the other drivers can be about making sure I know that I'm the one who needs to get out of the way. One woman kept driving toward me until I backed up a car length or two to make room for her to get by. (The parked car was on my side of the road, after all. I didn't get past it quick enough.)
When there is doubt about who should go, the signal here that you're letting the other person go is to flash your headlights at them. This caused me some confusion when we first moved here. I kept wondering what I was doing so wrong that would make people flash their lights at me! I kept thinking that I should have the right of way, but they were flashing at me. I didn't realize they were agreeing with me. In fact, people flash their lights a lot to other cars, to bikers or walkers. It also helps keep things moving.
When I was in Oregon last month I know I sat at a red light when I could have gone ahead and turned. (Okay, it probably happened more than once.) And I had to remind myself to make full stops at stop signs. Oh, and I kept trying to hit the clutch when coming to a stop and after I got back to Belgium I kept forgetting to depress the clutch when starting or stopping my van. Habits are hard to break.

Sunday, February 8

"Language Arts"

It's pretty amazing how kids can absorb a new language. Our boys have been exposed to the dutch language in school for 18 months while we've been in Belgium. They hear it every day for 7+ hours and they talk to their friends mostly in dutch. (Some of the older boys' friends like to practice their English, too.) It's to the point now that at times, when they are telling us something (in English), they get stuck on a word that their brain has come up with the dutch version for and they can't think of the English word for what they want to say. It goes something like this:

Cameron: "In school yesterday we were doing something in our W.O. lesson. We read information and made observations and then we ... had ... to .... to... we had to... "
Mom: "You can't find the word in English, can you?" 
Cam: "No." 
Mom: "What is the word in dutch?" 
Cam: "Uitrekenen" 
Mom: "You had to figure it out?" 
Cam: "Yeah, we had to figure it out!"

This has happened a few times lately and I'm sure it'll happen more in the next year and a half, especially when they're talking about things they do in school. It's pretty cool that they are so comfortable with the second language. For Andrew and Cameron, they've also added French in school, 2nd and 4th year levels. It's a pretty cool thing how multiple languages are just part of life here and everyone is able to converse in 2-3 languages minimum. Of course, when the next country over can be less than 1 hour away and uses a different language, it's important to be able to communicate!

Wednesday, January 28

Nathan-O-Lantern

Nathan has been losing teeth, too bad it's not close to Halloween - a little orange face paint and he'd be all set...

Monday, January 26

Bread

Most of the bread here in Belgium is very fresh and preservative-free and can be bought for under 2 euro ($2.50 or so). It took us a little while to get used to the drier texture, but we soon grew to prefer it to the breads we used to get at Albertson's. Most people here are pretty particular about their bread. They like it fresh, usually same-day fresh. Without preservatives, it doesn't stay fresh more than 2-3 days. So many people buy their bread each morning. It's wonderfully fresh from the bakery (another difference, there are lots of bakeries - they're like Starbucks). Fresh bread is such a big thing that if the stores are closed (which they are more often than in the US), there are options for getting bread. There are bread machines. I'm not talking about the kind where you put in the ingredients, plug it in and a few hours later you have a home-made loaf. I'm talking bread vending machines. At a gas station not far from our house there are 3 vending machines: one with "drank" - cans of beverages (including beer), one with "snoep" candy and snacks, and one with "brood" loaves of bread. When I told some Oregon friends about this, not surprisingly someone asked "how good could that be?" But you'd be surprised - it's actually not bad at all. Because if it was bad or stale, no one would buy it! So the machine is refilled each day with fresh bread. It's not the best we've had, but it certainly cuts it for sandwiches or to go with spaghetti on a Sunday night. 

A different kind of week

Last week was not a usual week for our family. Kevin was in Belgium working and taking care of the boys without me. The guys all had a good week - they made it to practices and games, survived the week and had some fun without me. And they missed me a little.

I was in Oregon having a testosterone-free week seeing my mom and girlfriends. Aside from saying hello to a couple of the husbands, I spent the whole week having chai teas, lunches, dinners and visits with most of my favorite women! It was so great! I love all my guys, but do feel outbalanced by the men I live with. It was such a treat to spend so much concentrated time with all women! I knew it would be a good thing when I was making the plans, but I underestimated just how much it would feel like I'd recharged my batteries. Thanks to everyone who made time to get together with me in Oregon; I'm thankful for every visit and all the time I spent with my girlfriends. Living out of the country these 3 years is a great thing and we're doing all the things we hoped to do while on this family adventure. But it's nice to know, it's heart-warming to know, that all my close friendships are still intact, as if I hadn't moved. It's a great feeling! 

Monday, January 12

Ieper

We walked on a frozen moat last Sunday! 

Last weekend, after so many weeks at or below freezing, some of the local ponds and small lakes froze over enough to go out on. This included the moat around the walled city of Ieper (Ypres in french). With the youngest 2 boys at scouts, Kevin, Andrew, Cameron and I went up to Ieper and walked on the moat. There were lots of people out on the ice walking, ice skating, sledding and playing. It was such a festive atmosphere! And the sunset was beautiful. We talked to a man who was with his granddaughter. She was using a chair/sled her grandfather had made for her mom when her mom was little! She sat on the sled and had 2 poles with nails on the end that she used to propel herself along the ice. (You can see some photos at www.flickr.com/clarke-family. The girl on the home-made sled is the first photo.)

I also took the boys and some friends to one of the small lakes on the way to the boys' schools. The guys were in heaven sliding around and using a skateboard deck (just the wood) on the ice. By Monday morning a warm front had come and none of the water was safe to walk on anymore. It's good we went when we did.

We were jealous of all the snow in the NW (though we know it was a little much for some and hindered travel plans). But it looked like a lot of fun and the week off of school in LO had them lamenting that we weren't there this Christmas. We were thinking of all our family and friend in the NW!

Tuesday, January 6

It's FREEZING!

We haven't had much of the fluffy white stuff, but it's not because it hasn't been cold enough. This morning it's unofficially -8 c (according to the temperature gauge on my Opal Zaphira). The kids biking to school look sooo cold! We've had cold temps for so long the ponds have a 6-7 inch layer of ice on them! Brrrrrr!